You may be valued for how readily you accommodate others, yet feel that few people know what you actually want. My work focuses on making room for your preferences, so closeness can include being yourself.
Boundaries & People-Pleasing
THERAPY FOR PEOPLE-PLEASING & APPROVAL SEEKING
Approach
I also pay attention to how being agreeable, useful, or needed has shaped your sense of belonging. If being valued feels dependent on what you provide, changing your answer can feel like risking your place in the relationship. We’ll work through that conflict as you practice making choices that include you, developing greater freedom to give, receive, and disagree in relationships beyond our work.
We can start with situations where you automatically accommodate someone before considering your own preference. I’ll work with you on pausing before committing, asking for time to decide, and expressing a different preference without immediately offering to make up for it.
Questions about this work.
BEFORE WE BEGIN
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Your generosity can remain something you value. We’ll work on recognizing when you genuinely want to give and when you’re agreeing to secure approval or avoid discomfort. That distinction gives you more choice in how you care for others.
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Yes. We can work through an obligation you regret accepting, a request you’re struggling to decline, or a conversation in which you want to express a different preference. Focused consultations are private pay and are not billed to insurance.
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No. We can understand the situation, assess risk and consequences, and decide what kind of response fits you and your specific circumstances, situation, and values before you act.
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START WITH WHAT NEEDS TO CHANGE
Bring a current situation. We’ll explore the competing demands, clarify your position, and consider how to act on it. You can decide after the session whether to continue.
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