How I Can Help

When thinking about something more isn’t helping you solve it. Work with persistent worry, rumination, second-guessing, reassurance seeking, and the need to anticipate what could go wrong.

Understand what keeps happening in your relationships and your part in changing it. Work through recurring patterns, conflict, communication, attachment, dating, intimacy, resentment, and more.

Doing well shouldn’t require never feeling good enough. Work with impossible standards, fear of mistakes, comparison, self-criticism, and the pressure to continually prove yourself.

Make a decision you don’t have to keep putting back on trial. For second-guessing, reassurance and advice seeking, difficulty knowing what you want, fear of making the wrong choice, dependence on others, and trusting everyone else’s judgment before your own.

Be clear about what works for you without spending days feeling guilty about it. Work on saying no, asking directly for what you need, tolerating other people’s disappointment, and separating caring about someone from taking responsibility for their feelings.

When being capable means everyone expects you to keep carrying more. For chronic pressure, over-responsibility, exhaustion, work that follows you home, and turning every mistake, setback, limitation, or criticism into evidence that you have fallen short.

Figure out what comes next when your life no longer looks the same. Support through relationship changes, marriage, divorce, becoming a parent, career shifts, new career, moves, caregiving, family changes, and periods when what worked before no longer does.

Not every loss looks like grief at first. For death and non-death losses, including relationships, family changes, identity, health, missed futures, lost childhoods, anniversaries, holidays, pets, and the losses that other people may not recognize.

When you can keep functioning but don’t feel much like yourself. Work with sadness, sorrow, disconnection, low motivation, loss of interest, hopelessness, self-criticism, and the effort it takes to keep participating in your life. Restore vitality & hope.

The relationship can end before you’re finished making sense of it. Work through the decision, aftermath, anger, grief, uncertainty, attachment, changed plans, the questions that can remain after a relationship changes or ends, and making sense.

You’re successful, capable, and used to handling things on your own. But underneath that competence, you may struggle to trust yourself, let people truly know you, ask for what you need, or ever feel like you’ve done enough.

You can love someone and still be exhausted by what loving them requires. For guilt, responsibility, resentment, anticipatory grief, family pressure, difficult decisions, and maintaining a life of your own while caring for someone else.

When knowing what to do doesn’t reliably translate into being able to do it. Work with overwhelm, emotional reactivity, rejection sensitivity, executive functioning, shame, and the difficulty following through when stress takes over.